Seeing his number on caller ID made my day. As I viewed who was calling I deliberated should I tell him about my painful decision.
He lives hundreds of miles away. He’s happy with his relationship choice. He enjoys his job. He views life as it should be lived. One day at a time. He dislikes drama and avoid making comments when I’m in-raged about his older brother. So I wanted to stay clear of upsetting him.
He could tell something was wrong. I told him what happened. He was disappointed it came to the decision I made. He said something like this: “Well, mom, my brother must live his life. The loaning of this money is a lesson to everyone. If my brother doesn’t get the lesson, the lesson will continue to visit him until he gets it.”
Nugget from God:
It’s a good thing to help others that are in need. If they abuse the resources God sends or sent their way then life lessons will continue until they learn whatever they need to learn.
Lord each time I write or speak of the money that my son’s girlfriend refuses to repay I become upset. Today, Lord, I’m asking for God’s peace on a good deed that went bad. I want to move on. Help me find ways to replace what the locust have eaten. Amen
Two days ago Jeff and I was out looking for property. We’re trying to make my (his) dream come true of living in the mountains in a log home. No I ain’t got it like that! But! I’m willing to work hard for what I want.
Well any-who, we stopped at a local grocery store. A young white woman was getting out of an SUV. It appeared as if she was mean mugging me, Jeff or both. So I stopped looking her way and walked towards the store’s entry.
Her kid nearly knocked me down. He was a kid so I excused his, what appeared to be, bad behavior.
We crossed paths with the lady several times during our shopping trip. Oddly enough we checked out about the same time as she did. It was then when I saw the bigger picture.
She was a mom that has a child that is mentally challenge.
Her attitude was that of a frustrated parent.
My heart sank and all I concluded about her diminished as I could only imagine her life and the challenges she face daily.
So I thought to self this woman needs to know God has not forgotten about her. You know what I mean. Sometimes life can be so brutal that you need a life sustaining nugget from the Creator. So I asked my husband to pull our vehicle up to her so I could see what she needed.
She was finishing with putting her rambunctious kid and items into the car.
I looked at her with compassion. I said, “Mam, I’m a couponer. I have more than I can use. What can I bring back to you?” She was shocked! She looked as if she wanted to cry.
She said, “Wait a minute. I want my mom to hear this.” So she had her mom to roll down the window. I repeated what I had asked the lady to her mom. Her mom sat there speechless.
I spend most of my days trying to do what God expects of His children. I even try to live my own life and allow others to live theirs. But the past couple of days I’ve been so drained from toxic family members. OMG!
Yesterday was a bad day! I’ve had to cut ties with my oldest son based on a rumor that was a lie. I’ve had to bridle my tongue when it came to dealing with family members that suffer from mental health issues. I’ve had to listen to gossip about my actions concerning helping my son’s girl-friend purchase a new and reliable car. Something that was meant to aid both he and her in continuing their journey to a secure financial future as a couple. I allowed the rumors of what my son’s girl friend had done to keep from paying me get underneath my skin! Later finding out she hadn’t done it! My poor husband has had enough of watching the affects of me dealing with a toxic family. He finally put his foot down starting with the loaning of the $5,000 to my oldest son’s girl friend that she now refuse to pay. Now, I’m having to watch my husband suffer emotionally from his decision when it came to giving me the ultimatum about cutting ties with my son.
After years of returning to a family I found toxic I’ve found myself on unstable ground. I can’t seem to get footing. Lately, I’ve been seeing myself getting upset with God because he won’t just do away with them all! Surly he sees they don’t serve a purpose. They are so toxic that it’s the norm among them. Really! You know how babies communicate with each other and they sound silly! Well that’s my mom’s family! They sit and plan their future with the gain from peoples death. They think it’s okay to take other people’s earthly belongings before the person dies! Then! Wait! Then they tell that person that’s asking for their property back that they will decided who will get it once the she dies! Then you have men wanting to beat up people for telling them the truth about their inabilities of being a man! They wear unhealthiness like it was fashionable! And! In style! Oh! Wait! Being unhealthy is in style! That’s why Jesus had to die for us all!
But! My mom’s family! OMG! They take greed, stupidity, ignorance, self-pity, deceit, thievery, dishonesty and so much more that decays the soul to heights that the word of God can’t penetrate them. It’s as if they’ve been turned over to reprobate minds.
Yet! They go to church every Sunday or most Sundays. Always speak in such a manner that makes the hearer believe they are true followers of Christ. Then in the backdrop of life their behavior clearly shows they don’t believe God is real. Cause the things they do I would be afraid to die in their current state.
The thing that put me back in the pickle barrel of toxic people is the failing health of my mom. After returning I see why my mom has heart problems spiritually and physically!
Gosh! Doggit! Her family is so toxic!
They make mountains out of molehills! They want understanding but can’t give it! They want compassion but don’t know how to apply it when it comes to dealing with others!
[Sigh] I find myself praying daily things that are crazy and later finding myself asking God for forgiveness for those crazy thoughts.
Prayer: God, I need you to give me your peace that surpasses all understanding as I help my mom during the last phase of her life. Let me be a good daughter not because I seek applause from onlookers but because your word says, “Honor thy mother and thy father.” I ask your protection from the arrows of those that tend to do me harm physically, emotionally and spiritually. I ask that your word continue to be truth in my life even when my way is cloudy. And, most of all, God can you please give me a life nugget today. Something that will feed my hungry soul on this journey you’ve aloud to unfold. Amen
Yesterday, I was very upset. It seems the lies my family have shared with those that would listen were believed. And what came to mind during this brief moment was something I was once told. “Everyone deserves their good name.” That statement holds true for the person that ruined yours. Yet, the part of you that protects and loves you wants to seek revenge despite the truth.
In Humility Matters the author writes:
“An angry reaction is to use words that harm another. Calumny is to speak about another and harm his or her good name. It might be a truthful fact but not necessary for me to promulgate. Slander is to actually speak and promote lies about another and testify false things about another as if they were true. Everyone deserves a good name, and for us to devalue another has an irrevocable and damaging effect on that person’s social well-being. Calumny and slander, however, most harm me because I falsely put myself above the other either in judgment or in vanity. My own being is tarnished. If I do this, I am not to be trusted. If I am not trustworthy, I forfeit the honor of bearing witness.”
And tho my name has been ruined I must find ways to bury old feelings. I must figure out another way to detach from those that ruined my name in the first place. I must finish the task that opened this door of reality of the affects of people ruining my good name; so, I can continue of the path of living a joy filled life.
I never read anything about the incident that took place on United Airlines concerning the removal of a passenger; however, you can’t help but to hear people talk about it. Sadly they make it seem like it was racially motivated.
After reading this bloggers post on the matter I can’t help but to wonder if the man brought it on himself. Sorry. But after reading he was removed and he ran back on the plane as an angry elf, no one really knew what his disdain could have given birth to and how it would affect the other passengers. Therefore, he was treated as a possible threat to others and was apprehended for his poor choice.
So I, with much regret, agree with how he was finally removed. He had the power to leave on his own accord and chose not.
If there’s one thing I have learned over the years, it’s that there are always two sides to every story.
On April 9th, a very unfortunate incident played out on United Flight 3411, the video of which has since gone viral causing a mass social media uprising with an ‘off-with-their-heads’ mentality. I mean, across the board. Fire ’em all and let the gods sort it out later.
Look, I get it. When I first saw the video I was appalled too. To say that it was inflammatory would be putting it mildly. But it was also a situation that was escalated far beyond the boundaries of necessity.
If a federal law enforcement officer asks me to exit a plane, no matter how royally pissed off I am, I’m going to do it and then seek other means of legal reimbursement. True story.
Most of you know that I enjoy couponing. I really enjoy giving to others. But for the past year what I have learned about me is that I HATE hypocrites!
I get all kinds of thoughts coming across my Facebook feed. Most of it is well wishing something personal, some of it deals with cruelty to animals, but the bulk of it deals with racism in America. Let me return to the subject of me couponing.
When I started my money-saving journey I never knew the doors of understanding that would open because of a paradigm change. In the last year I’ve lost friends for various reasons and most of those friends claim to be extremely religious or extremely knowledgeable about sex, race, religion, politics, and all other things that goes along with living life. And as I began to coupon I found myself in a spiritual place I didn’t even know exist and was able to read the hearts of those that claimed to love me.
I found myself caring less of what the world thinks of me as a black person. I found myself caring less of how people viewed my beloved car that is missing a quarter of its front bumper, a broken pulled down latched that was done by a Walmart worker. I found that my opinion mattered despite the rejections of others. I found I could validate another person’s opinion even though I didn’t agree with their belief. I found myself feeling more put off by folks forcing themselves in my life in one form or another. I found myself being inspired by the single good-looking younger than me caring about morals successful business owner man down the street. I found myself reflecting upon my marital vows and how I treat the guy that goes to work everyday and misses sleep because he must get his load to the buyer on time. I began to really put thought to how he gives me his paycheck each week (should he make a check) and questioned if I could do the same. I found myself wondering how I was going to pay back all the student loans my youngest took out in his name to attend college. And for you folks that feel my youngest should pay his student loans, close your pie holes! Please!
As my son’s parent it’s my job to see that he gets the best start in life. And! Since I made such a mess of my life by making poor decisions when I was young and netted nothing financially to aid my children when it came to helping them enter into the world as successful adults, then my son’s student loan repayments became mines because his entry into adulthood debt free is my job as his parent.
But the thing I’ve learned from couponing is that it takes all kinds of people to make this a beautiful world.
King Soopers/Kroger store has several varieties of Chef Boyardee Ravioli on clearance. Sadly there is no known coupon for this item. But! I brought 10 cans and paid .25 cents for each and saved tones! Cha-ching!
King Soopers/Kroger store has several varieties of Campbell’s Spaghettio’s on clearance. And what can make this sale even sweeter is the .50 cent off FOUR coupon that doubles in Colorado! I brought 8 cans, used 2 coupons, paid .33 cents for each and saved $7.68! Cha-ching! The coupon is in 9/17 Smart Source with the Rubbermaid cover.
Good morning! Today is a new day and with every new day comes new mercy. Thank you, Lord!
Today father I want to chat with you about my friend Joe and his struggles with your choices.
Father, my friend can’t understand why you won’t stop injustice. He feels because he questions your existence and why you created humanity, he is going to hell.
Lord, I don’t need to tell you my following thought because you already know. My friend is not the only one that feels disdain towards you; and the beauty of your deity is that you understand those feelings because you know their source. Sadly, what so many people don’t understand is your redemption plan.
When your son died on the cross his death covered doubt and unsavory thoughts. Therefore, my friend and those that feel as he will be given the same opportunity to live in Heaven as the next person; because in your eyes there are no little sins or no big sins, sin is sin. And when sin is committed and the sinner ask for forgiveness all is forgiven.
So today Lord, I’m praying for those that hate you. Lord give them a mind of spiritual clarity, hearts to believe in your existence, a mind to understanding there are many parts to your spiritual body, give them one on one time with you as you share and eat spiritual fruit with them, so, afterwards they can feel your presence in their lives. In Jesus name I ask these things. Amen
Sharpie® Fine Permanent Markers
Save $4.49 Reg. $5.49
Cost without coupon: $1
.75¢/1 7/26/2015 SS = .25¢
Expo® Chisel-Tip Dry Erase Markers
Save $5.99 Reg. 6.99
Cost without coupon: $1
$1.00 7/26/2015 SS = FREE
Sadly someone or someones have abused the sale by misusing coupons; therefore, as of today, Monday, August 24, 2015, Office Depot corporate office will only allow customers to use one coupon per transaction. However, customers can buy the limit of 3 same like items but can only use 1 coupon towards one of the three items.