MA Concerned Mom asked:
I have asked my friends and family a million times but nothing works maybe someone can give me something else to try? I have a daughter who is 5 she is half african american half white. She is a beautiful girl but she HATES her color (carmel). Ive tried explaining to her that she is beautiful and no matter what color she is she is beautiful. Ive tried explaining everything to her it dont work! My son is very pale color and she seems to be so jealous of him I even have a hard time getting her to go to her.dads house or family’s cause she dont want to be around “colored” people. Its like she resents them for her color! She often ask who God punished her and made her brown or if she can paint herself white. Please someone have tips? Im out of ideads..
When I read the story something about the content tapped into my hidden issues of self-hatred. I immediately recognized the unhealthy emotions as painful childhood memories. Honestly, I wanted them to remain buried. Mainly because they are suppressed memories from my childhood. I didn’t know how to deal with them. Yet something bigger, something greater, did not want my feelings of hopelessness to stay buried. Apparently it is time I visited the giants that seemed so much bigger to the little girl in the photo.
Coming across the plea from a hopeless mother has changed my life. The story casts light on my life learned lessons about self-hatred.
Now that I am an adult I am wiser than the little girl within that continues to feel helpless, unloved, and ugly. Unknown to her I can go to the giants of rejection, abuse, and self mutilation. I can knock on their door without fear. I can barge my way into restraint places as a protector of hers and my mental well being. And most of all I give my spirit the authority to emotionally rescue the little girl in the photo and join her with the woman I have become.
Love yourself, for if you don’t how can you expect anybody else to love you? ~Author Unknown
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