A week ago I was in a conversation with a friend. Immediately, I found myself praying silently. His words were upsetting. His confidence was frightening. And most noteworthy was his self-proclaim spiritual position as an ambassador for Christ. Scary! His words were without a doubt bloodcurdling.
If he had not came across as an insufferable know-it-all I could have drummed up some sympathy and informed him that his words were discouraging to his listeners, as they stopped him from making a difference. With retrospect I must write, arrogant know-it-alls most often do more mental damage than the person that is doing the abusing. There are effective ways to counsel a person in crisis and using tough love must be implemented at the correct time, or else nothing said or being done will help hurting people move forward with living their lives.
My friend was conversing with me loudly. He spoke fast. And with the combination of speaking loud and speaking fast he held the floor. There was no room to exit the conversation, therefore, I found myself being victimized by his bitter words that held no comfort. Again!
To my dismay I am realizing that my friend set me up. He knows my present dilemmas. He knew I could easily discuss them. Therefore, he asked conversation starter type questions that would lure me in and prompt me to begin discussing my personal life. Honestly, he was looking for a conversation that made him feel good about himself. As why the first question out of his deceitful mouth was “Are you at a drive thru?” When I answered with a hearty “No” then he proceeded with “What’s going on?” After I began to tell him of my husband’s legal problems he became immediately argumentative.
He said things to this effect: What good is your husband to you? Why don’t you just get rid of him? I thought you were going to get rid of him? You sound like my momma. She is forever complaining about daddy. We the kids have told her to leave him. I finally told her stop complaining about daddy. I told her I was sick of hearing it.
Wow! Right! After hearing the bitter words he and his siblings have said and are saying to their aged mom, I didn’t feel sad for me any longer. I came to his mother’s defense with stating “It is not that easy to leave a person when your lives are webbed together.” He said, “Yes it is!”
Really! Personally, I feel a marriage should never be easy to end unless a person’s life or mental wellbeing is being threatened.
I feel people with nomadic character traits can easily leave their spouses quickly without just cause. But a person that has been married for over 50 plus years just can’t jump up and leave a perceivably abusive spouse. It is not that easy! So today I would like to pray for couples that are having marital problems and have been married for more years than they can remember.
Lord in your Holy word you say in Genesis 2:18b, “It is not good that the man should be alone:”
Lord there is numerous things that can be considered as marital problems; therefore, today, I would like to pray for those that are unhappily married. Can you please spend your vacation with these couples for as long as they need you to stay? Can you please take your Spirit of Comfort to bandage wounds sustained by marital conflict. Can you collect their many tears and dry their eyes with promises of a brighter tomorrow. Can you fill their hearts with love, unconditional love for the spouse they find unlovable. Can you give those they consort with a spirit of understanding? Can you give each spouse your spirit of truth on love, marriage, commitment, and divorce? Can you give them joy where there is sorrow? And most of all Lord, can you give them peace that surpasses all mankind’s understanding where there is conflict? So all that loves them will not be affected by their marital woes.
Lord your word in John 6:12 say’s, “Gather the pieces that are leftover. Let nothing be wasted.” Please allow these couples to gather up their fragmented marital lives and bring the broken pieces to you so nothing from their marriage will be wasted.
Sincerely your faithful daughter,
Annette
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